And so I found myself pondering the quote, “I listen to what you say, but I hear what you mean.” It was attributed to Agatha Christie’s famed Belgian detective Hercule Poirot, as played by actor David Suchet.
But it wasn’t until late last night that I came across the thought-provoker. Monday had caught up with me before I was ready to let go of Sunday.
That’s why I hadn’t yet finished reading Sunday’s NY Times Magazine and particularly Hope Reeves’ interview with Suchet, ‘Part of Me Died With Him‘ containing the quote. Suchet, who played Poirot in the BBC show, says Poirot made him “a better listener.”
Were it only so that we listened with Poirot’s discernment. More often’s the case that people don’t listen to what you say — and hear only what they mean. Or as the late Steven Covey perceptively proclaimed, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
And so also true in the same interview was Suchet’s later declaration, “most people actually enjoy talking about themselves more than sharing with another person.”
On that note, here’s one more free continuing legal education link, which I missed last week. It comes with the usual disclaimers.
ESI, Ethics and Social Media: What Attorneys Should and Should Not Be Doing
• Understand how social media may appropriately be used to advertise.
• Learn how legal advice may be given through social media.
• Understand how social media can be used to gather and review evidence.
• Discover how social media can be used to communicate with clients.
• Find out how juror research may be conducted through social media.